What kind of Holistic Life Counselling do I give?

I do general counseling of all kinds of problems and issues. I use for the counseling different therapies, like RET and NLP and Coaching techniques. If requested I can also use Meditative therapy. I usually don’t use meditative therapy immediately unless requested, as it is a powerful tool to get into contact with the subconscious. It is only needed when after certain sessions there seems to be an unconscious problem or when you already know that the problem lies in the subconscious.

Meditative therapy can be used for all kinds of behavioral problems, fears, problems with certain limiting beliefs, or addictions. However you have to be willing to believe and stand for the treatment, as you can subconsciously influence the treatment when you are not really willing to go for it. You have to make up your mind and then we can use hypnotherapy to strengthen your subconscious choice making.

Intake

In the intake you will tell your story, and we will determine the plan. We get to know each other, and I will explain the procedures. We can already solve some little things, but the main reason is so you can tell your story and I will explain what can be done and how I can help you.

Extended Intake

With an extended intake, the first intake is immediately a counseling session and there can be already a lot that happens. During the first intake the course of the treatments will be determined. The course is never solid, and you can always decide if you’ve been helped enough on your way. Each session is on its own. If you know the problems are deep within you, and you need more space to talk about your issue, we can plan a session of 1,5 hour. This is enough for a first intake and a well rounded counseling session.

 

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What is relationship counselling?

Do you feel you crossed a certain dilemma in your relationship and you want to hear some feedback? Do you feel your relationship is in a bad shape or not that fun anymore, or your sex life is going through the drain? All kinds of questions around your relationship are good to talk about. During an intake we can look at the situation and give an estimation for a solution or different solutions.

If you’re open for it we can totally fit in an astrological consult to look deeper into the relationship dynamics and the potential of your relationship. This can be a real sufficient method to learn and develop in your relationship. I would recommend anyone who starts or is in a relationship to investigate in the astrological side of the relationship, because it gives good insights in the dynamics that play under the surface.

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What is Single Counselling/Coaching?

Single coaching/counseling is for people who don’t feel right being single or who want to know how to improve life. You don’t know what you want, or you want a relationship or you at least know that you don’t want a same or any relationship. At least you want to be happy. In the sessions we’re going to give you total awareness of your own capacities (what are they and how to use them), and we give you tools to work with in your life as a single. Also we’re going to look at previous relationship, and if there were no relationships, why didn’t they happen. We’re going to look for obstacles and how to overcome them. We’re going to look at your appearance, what kind of men or women do you attract, what does attraction mean to you, what do you really search for and what have you tried already. The knowledge you will gain at the sessions you can not only use in finding a suitable partner, but also in contact with friends and other relationships. It’s important to know how to present yourself. Single coaching/counselling is for you if:

– you’re single but not happy, or you want to have a relationship

– you don’t feel feminine/masculine/sexual/desirable

– social pressure, vulnerability, shame, guilt, trauma

– being shy, introvert, social phobia, black sheep

– you’ve tried “everything”

– ideals, how to find the one, what is the one

– recovering from a broken heart, heartbreak, loss, difficulties in letting go

– you’re in love but don’t know how to go about it

– loneliness, scared of ending up alone

– mixed relationships (culture, religion, ethnicity)

– sexuality, sexual behavior, sexual problems, deviant sexual thoughts, sexual health, taboo around sexuality

– attracting “the wrong type”, sexual abuse

-overcoming religious/cultural taboo

– self love, self respect, self worth, insecurity

– difficult childhood

– internet dating, pro’s and con’s

– female/male archetypes

-is there more or is this it-feeling

If you’re insecure, or you have questions about relationships or your relationship, you can send me an email and we can look if single coaching/counselling is the right solution for you. Coaching is about going further also on your own afterwards, so you have to practice and you will get tools to get ahead, while you get feedback and tips. Counseling is for the emotional support and room for emotional letting out.

Single coaching/counselling is also interesting for people who just want someone to listen to them and give them meaningful feedback about their process and in which direction they might better develop.

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Counselling & Coaching

As I do counseling for all kinds of problems, I’m geared towards female issues, relationship questions, love and single questions. This is a part of my counseling where I focus on. It is important for a woman to feel good in her skin, feel loved, feel worthy, even if single or in a relationship. It is also important to have a good sexual identity with yourself and feel in balance with yourself. This needs male as well as female aspects in the woman.

It can be hard sometimes as a woman if you are alone or not in an optimal relationship. Sometimes it is even difficult to talk about it, because of shame, guilt, taboo, culture or certain convictions. Not everyone that has difficulty or curiosity with handling or forming a relationship is obviously seen as psychological ill, so you can most often not get advice in regular ways through psychiatrists or psychologists. This might also be just a step too far for you anyway. There can be all kinds of reasons why it is not possible for you to talk about your problems, or you can not find the right confidential who can help you deal with emotions, life questions, sexuality, being single or having a relationship, your future or ambitions.

I give single consults, relationship consults and consults directed towards sexual problems or questions. I’m also skilled at handling different cultures and religions in how to deal with your questions regarding relationships and sexuality. I know in different cultures sexuality might be taboo and also some kind of upbringing might make it difficult to explore your own identity. This can become an issue in a relationship where you find out that you are blocked or don’t feel secure in your own skin.

I can work with all kinds of women from different cultures, religions, all ages from child till grown up, different educational levels, spiritual or just scientific. If you resonate with the need or feeling that you want to talk or receive useful feedback, you can always contact me and we can see what is possible. Every contact always stays confidential.

We can do all kinds of exercises to let you grow as a person. These exercises come from art therapy, expression, but also tantric practices. The counseling can exist out of talking, but also exercises like breathing, meditation, dancing, scents, ambiance, mind blockages etcetera. It is a whole package and the whole person is important, it doesn’t only happen at the genitals, the whole person is involved. I’m also specialized in belly dance, gogo dance and club dance, so I can teach you how to move sensually, to feel better and more confident in your own skin

The difference between coaching and counselling

Coaching is to teach and develop new capacities and gain new insights to look in a different way at your situation. Fancy terminology talks about cognitive behavioral therapy, nlp, positive psychology. Counselling is offering emotional support and guidance in your situation.

For the session the name is not important, so you can use another name. Looking at the sensitive topics that can be discussed I can imagine that someone doesn’t feel comfortable. If your situation is psychiatric or medical, I have to send you to another specialist in that particular field.

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