I give this treatment if people want to try a holistic treatment that enhances the fertility in a natural way. It is part of a holistic fertility plan, where you also look at what you eat and where you take special supplements to enhance and support fertility. It is not a medical treatment and it doesn't substitute medical treatment, it is a complementary alternative treatment.
During the female cycle you can notice different changes in sexual preference. It is already proven that slightly before menstruation a woman desires a more masculine man in the traditional sense of the warrior, while after the menstruation she desires more a man with nurturing qualities. Also the temperament of the woman changes during her cycle. Just before her menstruation the woman is more lustful and less compassionate, she is more connected to the animalistic side which is represented by the myth of Lilith, the first wife of Adam. Lilith is the independent, sexual woman who wants to claim equal rights and equality in the relationship. After the menstruation the woman turns into the more nurturing and compassionate woman, the woman you might normally know as your girlfriend/spouse/wife, which is resembled with the Eve. So men normally notice the shift when a woman becomes more aggressive or bitchy, but they don’t always connect that it can happen before her period, so not just during the period. It is not only physical but also an emotional/inner shift of focus.
I wrote about menstrual cycle and how the woman subconsciously feels she didn’t create a baby this time, so she becomes cranky, which doesn’t have anything to do with if the woman really wants to have a child or not. It is a primal urge that is connected to the female cycle, which is there to create a child in the most preferable case. The cranky woman is another side of the archetype of the wild woman, which can be associated with the Hecate archetype, the woman that shines through when a woman is actually not able to give birth anymore, so after menopause. The Hecate also has other qualities, like herbal knowledge, wisdom, wisdom of life, intuition and sorcery. This archetype is potent in every woman depending how much she is in tune with her own feminine side.
If a woman’s period is irregular or uncontrolled, it might be difficult to recognize the pattern, but every women potentially has the Lilith, eve paradigm in her. It is sometimes also referred to as the madonna/whore complex, which is more offensive to women, but it is somewhat the same. It is healthy as a woman to have both sides developed in you, some people would also see it as the balance of male and female energy in the woman, it doesn’t really matter how you call it, but it is important to recognize it in yourself. A woman is not always submissive and obedient, the duality is in the nature of the woman, and it is deforming the natural image of a total woman if you leave the rebellious/independent/sexual/assertive woman out of the picture.
The role of obedience is more or less a cultural phenomena of how society is shaped, and how roles between men and women are divided. Off course obedience is a good trait, but independence to think for yourself is also something to admire. However, it sometimes seems that some men can get intimidated by the independent women archetype, which is why they like the more obedient women. The obedient women is actually half complete, because the energy is only passive, instead it should be in balance. A woman giving birth also needs a lot of power to create, which is not only soft and cuddly power. Balance of both the Lilith and the Eve makes a strong and caring woman. This takes time and effort to develop, because of the patriarchal culture that women are nowadays raised in.
When a woman is fully grown is her sexuality, she can also use her sexuality as a way of channeling heavenly intuition, healing and insight into her life. She can use this gift even after menopause, because it is not related to giving birth, it is related to sexual transformation and spiritual practice.
The moon cycle symbolism go’s in the same way as your menstrual cycle go’s. Just the menstrual cycle is your personal “moon cycle” of your body. So when you start counting from the day 1 (regular 28 day cycle) of your menstrual cycle, when your menstrual blood comes, at day 4 you have the feeling of the crescent moon, where everything starts to grow a bit by bit. You might have a new idea, or a new wish that you want to materialize. It is associated with the beginning of spring, ending of winter, element earth.
At day 7 you are in your first quarter (waxing moon), you feel like you want to grow ideas and have ambitions. This is also the time you might come out of your zone and talk about it with people. You feel good in your skin, and things will fall into place as you find yourself working towards your ambitions and goals. You plan nice events and you are up and going. Your left brain works quite good and you absorb information and learn better. This phase is also associated with spring, element air.
At day 11, you are at your spike in estrogen level in your body, which makes you attractive and you might are more sexual or intimate than normal. This is in the gibbous time.
At day 14 you are at your maximum, high energy, ovulating and you might want to dance and sing. This is also the time that you might over-plan your agenda as you feel more energized. It is better to plan appointments 4 weeks later, when you are again in this same phase. You also bring your ideas in the world what you were thinking 2 weeks ago, when you started to have bubbling ideas. This phase is also associated with summer, element fire.
After ovulation another voice inside the head of a woman might start to talk, it is a more nagging and critical voice. She is sharp and analyzing all things. She might be critical on the world and on herself. She can be impatient and also knows what is unnecessary weight in life. After ovulation your behavior will become more introverted. This is called sinking inside yourself.
After day 21 the voice might become more harsh and annoying than you want, especially if you have to perform outside as a career under pressure. If you don’t take time to relax, reflect and go inwards, it might be that you become nagging and crabby. This is the third quarter moon of your menstrual cycle. It is good in this time to reflect and let go of things. It might also be that your inner voice is bitter because of things you didn’t reach or finish. It is also associated with the season of fall, element water.
When your menstrual cycle finally comes, it can feel for a lot of women also as a liberation or relaxing, besides the physical complaints, as your mind can finally relax and let go of things, the past and everything that you don’t want to carry anymore. Listen to your body, maybe you just want to relax and enjoy time by yourself. It is associated with winter. It is the time between dark moon, building towards the menstrual cycle and new moon, beginning at 3 to 4 days after day 1 of your menstrual cycle. At your menstrual cycle again, you start with a new cycle of phases. You might want to paint, draw, write in your journal or think of new ideas again. Remember your deepest wishes, dreams and hopes to give shape next cycle again.
As you can see, a woman’s cycle can initially tell you how a woman’s psychological and biological brain works during the month. It is not as steady as with men, that they think of something, execute it, and stay with it firmly. Women are much more flexible and movable by their cycle, especially if women are also listening to their cycle, they can make good use of their creativity during their cycle. This can also show a reason why women can think of so many things or have so many different hobbies and activities during their month. Also, you can see that there is a moment where a woman is going to start new ventures, as it is the beginning of her cycle. This is an important moment to see if you are going to start something new, or if you are going to restart something that you thought of some cycles before. If you have an irregular cycle, it might be more difficult to find your phases, but in principle these phases follow each other.
You also see the resemblance of the critical voice that many women have after ovulating and around their ovulation, especially one week before ovulation, they might be cranky and crabby. During ovulation it might be a release, but still some women are in the same phase of the cranky voice, because biologically your body works to make the egg, and your uterus thinks there is going to be a fertilized egg. In some way the female body just wants to get pregnant every time it releases a healthy egg. It is the purpose of releasing the fertile healthy egg. So the cranky women voice is actually the resembling of the biological body saying that she didn’t get pregnant this time, regardless of the woman consciously wants to get pregnant or not. It is just the menstrual cycle talking actually, not the conscious brain.
PMDS / PMDD – Pre Menstrual Dysphoric Syndrome/Disorder
About 5% of women in fertile age has a worse variant of PMS, namely PMDS. PMDS is a syndrome with the PMS symptoms that are already familiar, plus psychological instability just before the cycle starts. These symptoms are in such a way that they hinder the functioning of work, school, daily activities, relationships, social activities. PMDS for now falls under a sort of depression. You can see it as a temporary depression around the period when the period is going to come. It starts mostly 2 to 1 week before the period starts. The PMDS can be hereditary.
At least around 75% of women experience sometimes PMS symptoms. This can be mood swings, and physical complaints like lower back pain, stomach pain, uterus pain, ovary pain, swollen and hurtful breasts. However these complaints normally don’t intervene with daily life that much as is the case with people who have PMDS.
The Diagnosis for PMDS can be made when you have a diary and you keep it for at least 2 following menstrual cycles. You write every day in your diary, and not skip a day. After the following menstrual cycles the symptoms can be clear through the diary, which are for example: depressive mood, anxiety to fear, disinterest in activities. These episodes happen during the luteal phase (after the egg release out of the ovary), the second phase of the menstrual cycle. With a normal cycle it would be around the second 2 weeks before your period starts. The heaviest it can be around 1 week before the period starts.
Some women also have complaints around the ovulation, and are normally only one week free of complaints. After a few days that the menstrual period starts the complaints are gone, and they are complaint free the week after the menstruation. This is a huge difference between PMDS and regular depression or anxiety disorder.
Sometimes women with PMDS also have a history of other mood disorders and anxiety disorders. Hallucinations and delusions can happen in rare cases in the late luteal phase of the menstrual cycle.
The PMS symptoms when not treated can also result later in PMDS symptoms, depending on the disbalance of the body, but mostly there are connections to mental instability in an earlier stage.
The following symptoms are characteristic for PMDS, they have to be there during the last week of the luteal phase of the menstrual cycle during the past year. They also must disappear in within a few days after the period started till the beginning of the folliculair phase (when the egg is released) and one week after the period has been finished. One of the four symptoms can be one of the next ones:
-Sadness, hopelessness and feeling of mocking themselves
-Anxious, fearful feeling of being on the edge
-Labile mood, crying, heightened sensitivity of rejection
-Staying annoyance, anger, adding up to interpersonal conflicts
-Disinterest in daily activities, that can be also related to disinterest in social activities (school, work, relationships, friends, hobbies)
-Subjective feeling of concentration problems
-Feeling tired, lack of energy
-Change in food habits, lack or extra food cravings or certain food cravings
-Hypersomnia (extreme need for sleep) or insominia (sleeplessness)
-Subjective feeling of being overwhelmed or loss of control
-Physical complaints like: swollen, sensitive or painful breasts, headache, feeling bloated, gaining weight when clothes/shoes/rings fit tight. Also pain of joints or muscles.
Also there can be mood swings, depression, intense anger and conflict with other people, tension, anxiety, irritability, difficulty concentrating, fatigue, change in appetite, feeling out of control, sleep problems, cramps and bloating, headache, hot flashes.
The symptoms can come together with suicidal thoughts. Also the PMDS can cause symptoms that can make another disorder worse, but it is not a cause of another disorder and it can not be interchanged or confused with another disorder because the PMDS happens in a certain time span depending on the menstrual cycle.
The causes can be an abnormal reaction to hormone changes related to the menstrual cycle. There has been shown a relationship between low levels of serotonin in the brain, that helps transmit nerve signals. Certain brain cells that use serotonin control also mood, attention, sleep and pain. Hormonal changes may cause a decrease in serotonin, leading to PMDS symptoms.