The 5 reiki principles

Official reiki quotes:

Just for today, I will give thanks

Just for today, I will not worry

Just for today, I will not be angry

Just for today, I will do my work honestly

Just for today, I will be kind to my neighbors and all living things

These are also nice reiki quotes:

  • I release angry thoughts and feelings.
  • I release thoughts of worry.
  • I'm grateful for my many blessings.
  • I practice expanding my consciousness.
  • I'm gentle with all beings including myself.
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Fertility Massage

I give this treatment if people want to try a holistic treatment that enhances the fertility in a natural way. It is part of a holistic fertility plan, where you also look at what you eat and where you take special supplements to enhance and support fertility. It is not a medical treatment and it doesn't substitute medical treatment, it is a complementary alternative treatment.

-Natural Fertility Consult: first intake

consult 60 min, 7 follow up consults 30 min

-Fertility Massage: 8 massages (30 min), once a week

-Rite of the Womb Healing, 60 min

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How to sleep better?

Sleep problems can be a difficult challenge to deal with. As people get more stressed it gets more and more difficult to fall asleep. Also when people are depressed or taking medication it can easily get out of hand.

How to create a good sleep routine?

-Wake up earlier in the morning.

-Don't go to bed during the day.

-Lower your stress levels.

-Don't sit too much behind the PC.

-Get a walk outside at the end of the day.

-Shower and wash away the stress.

-You can use supplements to fall asleep: magnesium, melatonin, passion flower, GABA, Valeriana. And if it really doesn't work you can also use medication on prescription but that can have side effects and sometimes it is difficult to quit when you use sleeping medication for a longer time. So better is to use natural supplements first, instead of getting hooked on the medication.

-Having a job or activities during the day that are physical can also help feeling sleepy at the end of the day.

-Physical activity during the day can also help reduce stress.

-Meditation can help, but if your anxious or too stressed it might be better to first do something active

-Lower medication if possible, if sleeplessness is a side effect, talk to your medical doctor. Ask what are different possibilities.

-You can do light and slow yoga exercises and meditation before going to bed.

-Get regular exercise like swimming.

-Go every day on the same time to bed and wake up around the same time.

-Write down your problems and worries in a diary or notebook so you can let go of your problems before going to bed.

-Sexuality can also play a big role in why people can not fall asleep. If you are too excited some people can not fall asleep. This can be the case for women and men. Just hugging can also help.

-Go to bed when you actually feel sleepy.

-Don't go over your sleep boundary.

-Read a story book, so not a book that excites or makes you think a lot, but a book that relaxes your brain.

-Listen to sleep music. This is a special genre of music.

-It can be that during the spring and summer season you sleep less because the sun rises earlier, even if the blinds are closed.

-Don't eat late at night.

-Go to washroom before going to bed.

-Thankfulness, for some people Prayer might help or Mantra, depending on your believe.

You should take your sleep routine seriously, because if you don't sleep enough you can get brain symptoms that can be disturbing if you feel anxious or depressed.

Sleep rhythm can improve over time, if you take care of it. So don't give up on it. 

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What is the need for Single Counselling/Coaching?

Nowadays more people get or stay single, also after divorcing or after a series of short relationships. It's not always easy to be single. The pressure of friends, family and how to deal with feelings of being alone or even lonely are all contributing to not feeling optimal.

Sometimes you can be happy and look at the positive side, but at the end of the day it is wonderful to have someone to share your life, dreams and hopes with!

Do you need someone to understand and talk to, or to give you new insight in how to coop and make a better plan for yourself? You can schedule an appointment now and we can talk about your needs and wants!

 

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What kind of Holistic Life Counselling do I give?

I do general counseling of all kinds of problems and issues. I use for the counseling different therapies, like RET and NLP and Coaching techniques. If requested I can also use Meditative therapy. I usually don’t use meditative therapy immediately unless requested, as it is a powerful tool to get into contact with the subconscious. It is only needed when after certain sessions there seems to be an unconscious problem or when you already know that the problem lies in the subconscious.

Meditative therapy can be used for all kinds of behavioral problems, fears, problems with certain limiting beliefs, or addictions. However you have to be willing to believe and stand for the treatment, as you can subconsciously influence the treatment when you are not really willing to go for it. You have to make up your mind and then we can use hypnotherapy to strengthen your subconscious choice making.

Intake

In the intake you will tell your story, and we will determine the plan. We get to know each other, and I will explain the procedures. We can already solve some little things, but the main reason is so you can tell your story and I will explain what can be done and how I can help you.

Extended Intake

With an extended intake, the first intake is immediately a counseling session and there can be already a lot that happens. During the first intake the course of the treatments will be determined. The course is never solid, and you can always decide if you’ve been helped enough on your way. Each session is on its own. If you know the problems are deep within you, and you need more space to talk about your issue, we can plan a session of 1,5 hour. This is enough for a first intake and a well rounded counseling session.

 

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What is Meditative Hypnotherapy?

The meditative therapy sessions itself can take up from 30 to maximum 90 minutes. This can differ per problem and per goal. If you think counseling doesn’t reach the problem quite well or if you want to dive deeper in your subconscious, then meditative therapy might be the right solution for you. You go into meditative state, and while you’re there I’m going to ask your subconscious to support you in the right direction. Important with this is that I also need your words to talk to your subconscious, so it can help you even further. Each session is for that reason really personal and not translatable to another person.

For guidance against all kinds op psychological discomforts, I can help you through guided meditative therapy. The meditative therapy is sort of a meditative state where you get positive suggestions that reboot and can change your possible flawed beliefs about reality. This is how we can treat fear, but also addictions. Most of all we can change long term behavior by implementing good suggestions in the subconscious. In this way your mind and body knows and is aware of the positive possibilities that might change your life for the better!

You can also see meditative therapy as a form of guided meditation, even though it is important to also believe in the treatment yourself, so the effect will be more evident. You have to have an open mind to use this treatment, otherwise you will sabotage your own progress. It is also important that you want to change a certain behavior pattern, so you are willing on a conscious level at least that the current behavior is not what you want, and you want to replace it with more healthy or better suitable behavior.

Meditative therapy is for you if you can at least relax so you can get into a certain sleep-awake state, called a meditative state. This would have the best effects for the treatment.

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What is relationship counselling?

Do you feel you crossed a certain dilemma in your relationship and you want to hear some feedback? Do you feel your relationship is in a bad shape or not that fun anymore, or your sex life is going through the drain? All kinds of questions around your relationship are good to talk about. During an intake we can look at the situation and give an estimation for a solution or different solutions.

If you’re open for it we can totally fit in an astrological consult to look deeper into the relationship dynamics and the potential of your relationship. This can be a real sufficient method to learn and develop in your relationship. I would recommend anyone who starts or is in a relationship to investigate in the astrological side of the relationship, because it gives good insights in the dynamics that play under the surface.

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What is Single Counselling/Coaching?

Single coaching/counseling is for people who don’t feel right being single or who want to know how to improve life. You don’t know what you want, or you want a relationship or you at least know that you don’t want a same or any relationship. At least you want to be happy. In the sessions we’re going to give you total awareness of your own capacities (what are they and how to use them), and we give you tools to work with in your life as a single. Also we’re going to look at previous relationship, and if there were no relationships, why didn’t they happen. We’re going to look for obstacles and how to overcome them. We’re going to look at your appearance, what kind of men or women do you attract, what does attraction mean to you, what do you really search for and what have you tried already. The knowledge you will gain at the sessions you can not only use in finding a suitable partner, but also in contact with friends and other relationships. It’s important to know how to present yourself. Single coaching/counselling is for you if:

– you’re single but not happy, or you want to have a relationship

– you don’t feel feminine/masculine/sexual/desirable

– social pressure, vulnerability, shame, guilt, trauma

– being shy, introvert, social phobia, black sheep

– you’ve tried “everything”

– ideals, how to find the one, what is the one

– recovering from a broken heart, heartbreak, loss, difficulties in letting go

– you’re in love but don’t know how to go about it

– loneliness, scared of ending up alone

– mixed relationships (culture, religion, ethnicity)

– sexuality, sexual behavior, sexual problems, deviant sexual thoughts, sexual health, taboo around sexuality

– attracting “the wrong type”, sexual abuse

-overcoming religious/cultural taboo

– self love, self respect, self worth, insecurity

– difficult childhood

– internet dating, pro’s and con’s

– female/male archetypes

-is there more or is this it-feeling

If you’re insecure, or you have questions about relationships or your relationship, you can send me an email and we can look if single coaching/counselling is the right solution for you. Coaching is about going further also on your own afterwards, so you have to practice and you will get tools to get ahead, while you get feedback and tips. Counseling is for the emotional support and room for emotional letting out.

Single coaching/counselling is also interesting for people who just want someone to listen to them and give them meaningful feedback about their process and in which direction they might better develop.

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Counselling & Coaching

As I do counseling for all kinds of problems, I’m geared towards female issues, relationship questions, love and single questions. This is a part of my counseling where I focus on. It is important for a woman to feel good in her skin, feel loved, feel worthy, even if single or in a relationship. It is also important to have a good sexual identity with yourself and feel in balance with yourself. This needs male as well as female aspects in the woman.

It can be hard sometimes as a woman if you are alone or not in an optimal relationship. Sometimes it is even difficult to talk about it, because of shame, guilt, taboo, culture or certain convictions. Not everyone that has difficulty or curiosity with handling or forming a relationship is obviously seen as psychological ill, so you can most often not get advice in regular ways through psychiatrists or psychologists. This might also be just a step too far for you anyway. There can be all kinds of reasons why it is not possible for you to talk about your problems, or you can not find the right confidential who can help you deal with emotions, life questions, sexuality, being single or having a relationship, your future or ambitions.

I give single consults, relationship consults and consults directed towards sexual problems or questions. I’m also skilled at handling different cultures and religions in how to deal with your questions regarding relationships and sexuality. I know in different cultures sexuality might be taboo and also some kind of upbringing might make it difficult to explore your own identity. This can become an issue in a relationship where you find out that you are blocked or don’t feel secure in your own skin.

I can work with all kinds of women from different cultures, religions, all ages from child till grown up, different educational levels, spiritual or just scientific. If you resonate with the need or feeling that you want to talk or receive useful feedback, you can always contact me and we can see what is possible. Every contact always stays confidential.

We can do all kinds of exercises to let you grow as a person. These exercises come from art therapy, expression, but also tantric practices. The counseling can exist out of talking, but also exercises like breathing, meditation, dancing, scents, ambiance, mind blockages etcetera. It is a whole package and the whole person is important, it doesn’t only happen at the genitals, the whole person is involved. I’m also specialized in belly dance, gogo dance and club dance, so I can teach you how to move sensually, to feel better and more confident in your own skin

The difference between coaching and counselling

Coaching is to teach and develop new capacities and gain new insights to look in a different way at your situation. Fancy terminology talks about cognitive behavioral therapy, nlp, positive psychology. Counselling is offering emotional support and guidance in your situation.

For the session the name is not important, so you can use another name. Looking at the sensitive topics that can be discussed I can imagine that someone doesn’t feel comfortable. If your situation is psychiatric or medical, I have to send you to another specialist in that particular field.

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